Recently everyone and their mama, no really and their mama, has had something to say about Rihanna and Chris Brown. Their releases of their two new tracks together, specifically the remix to Rihanna’s track Birthday Cake, has caused people to speculate about if the couple is back together again. This speculation has caused a media uproar as blogs, radio and television hosts, magazine journalists and Jesus himself gave their two cents. (Okay not Jesus, but I’m just sayin…) I am going to list the common points that people are making in regards to the couple and basically give you my two cents as well.
Rihanna is being a bad role model for girls.
Who the heck looks to Rihanna as a role model? And who the heck is allowing their children to listen to Rihanna? Rihanna is grown, her lyrics are dirty and risqué, and she pushes the line as far as she can when it comes to expressing her sexuality. She is no nun so if you thought she was a good role model before the Rih and CB collaborations you have been living under a rock. Besides, it is not her job to be a role model… she is an entertainer, not the president of the Big Brothers Big Sisters club.
Rihanna is showing people that domestic abuse should be tolerated.
I understand why people would say that. I do, I really do. But I also look at it like this… we don’t know their situation. We only know what the media tells us. Yes Chris Brown tapped that ass, and if it were me I would have been done after that. But that’s just it… it’s not me. We don’t know if he is getting help, if he is changed any of those things. We can only hope that he does not hurt her again. Frankly, that is not our place to decide if she should forgive him or not. If you have been in love you know that love makes you do and see things that others don’t. Hopefully she will figure it out, if she hasn’t already.
Rihanna is strung out on sex and Chris Brown has manipulated that.
So what! If she likes the D he throwing I can’t even be mad at her. I’m just saying. If love makes you blind just think of what sex does to you. You heard the lyrics “remember how you did it/remember how you fit it/ if you want it right now you can come and get it.” Again, I just hope that she understands the risks she’s taken and if she is okay with that who are we to judge?
If it were me…
It’s not you. Point blank. Next.
As entertainers, they have to hold their selves to a higher standard.
I truly feel bad for entertainers. We as fans feel like we are entitled to every aspect of their personal lives. We are not. They are human too. When you go to work do your coworkers feel as if they need to know who you were sleeping with and who you went out to eat with last night? You would be offended, so just mind ya’ bid’ness.
Lastly, remember this… you cannot tell a woman ANYTHING about her man. We’ve all been there before; we cannot stand our homegirls boyfriend and we say whatever we feel needs to be said to prove to her that he’s a jerk. But guess what… she still going to be laying next to that fool tonight. A woman will do whatever she wants to do when it comes to dealing with her man because no one else is going to provide her with whatever it is he is giving her— that magical feeling a woman gets when she has a man. I don’t care if it’s your sister, best friend in the whole world, you’ve known each other since diapers… a woman will initially chose her man. Maybe one day she will see the light and come back telling you how she should have listened, but until then all you can do is observe, pray for her, and be there when she needs you again.