So I’m addicted to the show Tough Love on VH1. I often find myself resisting the urge to apply to be on the show myself. I know I’m not messed up like those girls but I do believe I have been mis-educated when it comes to the topic of men and dating. See, I was taught that men were bad creatures and all they wanted to do was get your cookies and go. “They will just love you, leave you, and you’re going be stuck raising a baby all by yourself,” was the advice that I was given growing up.
Now it took me about umm… 22 years to learn that that is not always the case. There are some good guys out there… I’m sure. Khia’s “Don’t Trust No N****” may be a lot of girl’s anthem but I never took the time to learn the words. I don’t believe in that mess anymore. I refuse to have the “everyone is the same” mentality. I look to people older than me that do have that mentality and I see that because of it, they have done nothing but pushed good people away and stood in their own way.
Avonte on Tough Love told Steve that she believes all men are cheaters. When he asked her what would she say if he told her that there are good men out there she responded that he would just be lying to her, like most men do. I felt bad for that girl because if that’s the mentality that she has she will never find a good man. Or wait, I should say she might find a good man but she’s going to run him away by accusing him of lying and cheating all the time. SMH Why is it hard to believe that someone might love you enough to not cheat on you or lie to you? Is that really the reality? I don’t believe it. Maybe Avonte needs to love herself enough to know that she will not settle for a man cheating on her and lying to her because she knows she’s worth more than that. Same for a lot of other women too…
I guess the best lesson to learn watching Tough Love is instead of looking at everyone else for reasons and excuses to why you aren’t happy, start with the closest thing to you… yourself.