@ZuriTude

I haven’t thought of you in so long….

Yet how did u come to my dream

So vivid and so strong

The man I always wanted

But never could have

Always on my fingertips

But never in my grasp

The love I feel for you

Is at the tip of my tongue

Bursting from my lips

But the silence is our song

I try to make you feel it

Surrounding my heart

But it seems to never reach to you

So close, yet so apart

Confusion covered with smiles

Acceptance hiding trials

Pretending that I’m cool

Chillin’ in the friendzone for a while

But I’ll never be okay

With being the homie

When i want you love your hands your eyes all on me

I’ll never be okay

With being a “hey how you been”

When all I ever wanted was to be your woman you be my man

So intelligent, so confident, so crazy sexy cool

So many reasons why I’m so attracted to you

I’ll never be okay with things as they seem

And I’ll never be okay with you sneaking back into my dreams

Recently everyone and their mama, no really and their mama, has had something to say about Rihanna and Chris Brown. Their releases of their two new tracks together, specifically the remix to Rihanna’s track Birthday Cake, has caused people to speculate about if the couple is back together again. This speculation has caused a media uproar as blogs, radio and television hosts, magazine journalists and Jesus himself gave their two cents. (Okay not Jesus, but I’m just sayin…) I am going to list the common points that people are making in regards to the couple and basically give you my two cents as well.

Rihanna is being a bad role model for girls.

Who the heck looks to Rihanna as a role model? And who the heck is allowing their children to listen to Rihanna? Rihanna is grown, her lyrics are dirty and risqué, and she pushes the line as far as she can when it comes to expressing her sexuality. She is no nun so if you thought she was a good role model before the Rih and CB collaborations you have been living under a rock. Besides, it is not her job to be a role model… she is an entertainer, not the president of the Big Brothers Big Sisters club.

Rihanna is showing people that domestic abuse should be tolerated.

I understand why people would say that. I do, I really do. But I also look at it like this… we don’t know their situation. We only know what the media tells us. Yes Chris Brown tapped that ass, and if it were me I would have been done after that. But that’s just it… it’s not me. We don’t know if he is getting help, if he is changed any of those things. We can only hope that he does not hurt her again. Frankly, that is not our place to decide if she should forgive him or not. If you have been in love you know that love makes you do and see things that others don’t. Hopefully she will figure it out, if she hasn’t already.

Rihanna is strung out on sex and Chris Brown has manipulated that.

So what! If she likes the D he throwing I can’t even be mad at her. I’m just saying. If love makes you blind just think of what sex does to you. You heard the lyrics “remember how you did it/remember how you fit it/ if you want it right now you can come and get it.” Again, I just hope that she understands the risks she’s taken and if she is okay with that who are we to judge?

If it were me…

It’s not you. Point blank. Next.

As entertainers, they have to hold their selves to a higher standard.

I truly feel bad for entertainers. We as fans feel like we are entitled to every aspect of their personal lives. We are not. They are human too. When you go to work do your coworkers feel as if they need to know who you were sleeping with and who you went out to eat with last night? You would be offended, so just mind ya’ bid’ness.

Lastly, remember this… you cannot tell a woman ANYTHING about her man. We’ve all been there before; we cannot stand our homegirls boyfriend and we say whatever we feel needs to be said to prove to her that he’s a jerk. But guess what… she still going to be laying next to that fool tonight. A woman will do whatever she wants to do when it comes to dealing with her man because no one else is going to provide her with whatever it is he is giving her— that magical feeling a woman gets when she has a man. I don’t care if it’s your sister, best friend in the whole world, you’ve known each other since diapers… a woman will initially chose her man. Maybe one day she will see the light and come back telling you how she should have listened, but until then all you can do is observe, pray for her, and be there when she needs you again.

So I’m addicted to the show Tough Love on VH1. I often find myself resisting the urge to apply to be on the show myself. I know I’m not messed up like those girls but I do believe I have been mis-educated when it comes to the topic of men and dating. See, I was taught that men were bad creatures and all they wanted to do was get your cookies and go. “They will just love you, leave you, and you’re going be stuck raising a baby all by yourself,” was the advice that I was given growing up.

Now it took me about umm… 22 years to learn that that is not always the case. There are some good guys out there… I’m sure. Khia’s “Don’t Trust No N****” may be a lot of girl’s anthem but I never took the time to learn the words. I don’t believe in that mess anymore. I refuse to have the “everyone is the same” mentality. I look to people older than me that do have that mentality and I see that because of it, they have done nothing but pushed good people away and stood in their own way.

Avonte on Tough Love told Steve that she believes all men are cheaters. When he asked her what would she say if he told her that there are good men out there she responded that he would just be lying to her, like most men do. I felt bad for that girl because if that’s the mentality that she has she will never find a good man. Or wait, I should say she might find a good man but she’s going to run him away by accusing him of lying and cheating all the time. SMH Why is it hard to believe that someone might love you enough to not cheat on you or lie to you? Is that really the reality? I don’t believe it. Maybe Avonte needs to love herself enough to know that she will not settle for a man cheating on her and lying to her because she knows she’s worth more than that. Same for a lot of other women too…

I guess the best lesson to learn watching Tough Love is instead of looking at everyone else for reasons and excuses to why you aren’t happy, start with the closest thing to you… yourself.

Hello,

I am very new to this form of blogging but if you follow me on twitter (@Zuritude) you know that I like to talk. I always have somehing to say. I have lots of opinions about things, ideas, and I am very generous with my two cents. Instead of subjecting my followers to be flooded with my #ZuriVents and trying to squeeze my thoughts into 140 characters, I have decided to start blogging. This will be my first attempt. Now I’m not sure that there will be a common theme like music, fashion, news etc. I am just too all over the place to focus on one topic. If something sparks my interest I will write. If something is on my mind, I will write. I love to write, I love to talk, I love to have an opinion, so I will always have something to say.

If you ever want my opinion on a topic, let me know. As I said before, I am not stingy with with two cents.